Matt recently completed his training to be a Certified Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner (EFT-INT). His training is in Clinical EFT, which has been validated in over 20 research studies to date to be an evidence-based practice. Matt is currently one of only five Certified EFT Practitioners in the state of Ohio and the only one in Northwest Ohio. Email Matt today at Matt@deeprootswellness.info to schedule your EFT Coaching Session today!
Emotional Freedom Techniques, Reiki, and More!
“It’s not a big deal.” That is a common response when I ask a client to tell me about an ‘as recently as five minutes ago’ traumatic memory or fear. As they thought about it, it really wasn’t a big deal to them any further. Their face and body are calm, almost meditative, whereas it had been tense, twisted, and tearful moments earlier. I was surprised when I started to get this reaction from clients who use Emotional Freedom Techniques. I had started my tapping journey watching Gary Craig’s grainy DVDs and seeing person after person amazingly exclaim how their pain, sadness, or fear was completely gone. Don’t get me wrong, there are some of those experiences mixed in where a client will express their amazement that their issue was completely resolved. One woman even gave me a spontaneous hug after tapping helped her resolve a decade’s long negative experience. The funny part is, she didn’t even tell me what it was!
I kept wondering why so many people were so chill about clearing a major barrier in their life in mere minutes- something that might have taken months or years of therapy? The counselor part of me who has been on multi-year journeys with clients in therapy wants to jump up and down and say “Wow that’s amazing that this thing you’ve dealt with your whole life is gone! Are you as excited as I am! That’s so awesome! You are awesome! Everything is awesome!”
But I don’t do that. I’m a professional. So I thought about it and went back to some of the research findings regarding EFT. EFT lowers Cortisol (stress hormone) levels dramatically. EFT reduces the brain wave frequencies associated with stress or amplifies those associated with relaxation1. When we tap on these different acupressure points it sends tiny electric signals to our brain to relax itself while you’re focused on something stressful or upsetting. It helps to rewire our brains on the fly.
So maybe that’s what’s happening to these folks. The tapping is helping them lower the stress hormones in their body, changing their brain wave frequencies, and providing them with a sense of calm and relaxation. If they are in a state of relaxation, they may not be excitable. The “zap” has been taken out of their memories and fears. When the zap is gone, there isn’t anything to get them charged. The person is able to integrate the experience in their life but it no longer carries a mental, emotional, or energetic burden. In other words, “it’s not a big deal.” How exciting is that?
Tapping Tip of the Week: Are you having a craving? Are you stress eating? Try this simple tapping sequence- tap with two fingers under your eye, then under your nose, then on your chin (in the dip). Tap 5-7 times on each point and repeat.Out loud or in your mind say “this craving.” Do this for 30 seconds to a minute to take the edge off your craving!
1Church, D. (2013). Clinical EFT as an evidence-based practice for the treatment of psychological and physiological conditions. Psychology, 4(7). http://file.scirp.org/Html/35751.html.
When I first learned about Emotional Freedom Techniques about eight years ago I thought it was extremely weird. Mind you, when my friend Rena introduced it to me, she didn’t explain it at all, she just had me start tapping all over face and chest and moving my eyes every which way. Before I tapped I was expressing a variety of emotions (I don’t remember what exactly they were because they’re gone now) about a childhood experience that had long bothered me. After the tapping, she had me tell the story again, and something was missing. It was that feeling. It was gone. I hadn’t forgotten it; it just no longer held any emotional or physical weight. I couldn’t make myself feel intense about it. Needless to say I was amazed although I still thought it was quite strange.
Fast forward to the present. Whenever I show someone EFT for the first time, I tend to preempt it with “I know this looks really weird.” However, a funny thing has been happening. People say “I don’t think it’s that weird.” Some have even said “I don’t care what it looks like. It works.” Working and living in small towns in Northwest Ohio, I am excited to hear people tell me that they have heard of EFT or that they’re willing to give it a shot. They don’t need to hear me apologizing for how “weird” it looks. Sometimes the less talking I do and the more tapping we do, the smoother things go.
If you really think about it, the only thing that looks weird about EFT is when you see the entire sequence. Why is that? Because we subconsciously tap, hold, and rub these points on a regular basis when we are under stress. Have you ever caught yourself tapping the dip on your chin while pondering something?
Perhaps you’ve held your fingers along the ridge of your forehead, also known by some as the “Oh my God” points, when you are stressed or overwhelmed.
Doesn’t look too strange right? What happens when we put all the points together?
Wow. Ok. I see it now. It’s just me! In all seriousness, EFT really isn’t that weird looking, and when you consider all of the peculiar things we post on our Facebook pages everyday, would doing a few rounds of tapping even break the top ten? When you add that to the tremendous benefits tapping can provide, why not give it a try? I’m so thankful that I did.
Want to know more about Deep Roots Wellness? What is Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and how can it help me? Check out our new video to find out more. Rose has a Q & A session with our practitioner Matt to discuss his background, how he was introduced to EFT, and how he has used it to help others.
We are also excited for the opportunity to bring Deep Roots Wellness to two ‘Birth Without Fear‘ Meetups this spring (bwfconference.com). We will be attending the Meetups in Chicago, Illinois on Friday, April 11, 2014 and Columbus, Ohio on Saturday, May 3, 2014. We look forward to meeting with some awesome mamas and talk about how EFT can help take the fear out of birth!
Matt Hollo, our Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and experienced EFT practitioner recently attended the “official” Emotional Freedom Techniques/EFT Universe 4-day intensive training in Chicago, Illinois, to obtain his certification in Clinical EFT. Matt is excited to bring this level of EFT expertise and training to Northwest Ohio!
EFT sessions typically take anywhere from 30 to 90 minutes, depending on the complexity of the issue. Matt strives for neutralizing the issue by the end of the session.
Matt is especially interested in working with women and couples experiencing infertility, miscarriage, pregnancy, and postpartum challenges (i.e. postpartum depression), and those who have experienced traumatic birth. He would like to build this subject matter as his area of expertise. Matt and his wife Rose are not strangers to these issues and hold a special place in their hearts for fellow parents who are walking this difficult path to parenthood.
Matt can meet with anyone in person in Defiance, Ohio, or can work via telephone, Skype, or FaceTime. Please contact us to schedule your appointment today! Free consults are also available to help you decide if EFT is right for you!
Happy Summer! After a hiatus due to the birth of our daughter, educational and career changes, and a big move, we are ready to begin anew in the North West Ohio area! We are so excited to be able to bring our unique knowledge and skills to a new group of friends.
We are offering all levels of Reiki and EFT classes this summer in Defiance, Ohio, or other locations upon request. We are working on some new TOP SECRET projects, as well! Please check back soon, as we will be updating our calendar. If you have a special request, please let us know!
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By: Rev. Mary Grigolia (Copyright 2008)
12 Questions, 12 Days
Dec. 21: Who am I?
Dec. 22: What do I value?
Dec. 23: What do I say?
Dec. 24: Where is home?
Dec. 25: What do I create?
Dec. 26: What do I serve?
Dec. 27: Whom do I love?
Dec. 28: What dies in me?
Dec. 29: What do I believe?
Dec. 30: Am I in the world?
Dec. 31: Do I create peace?
Jan. 1: How must I live?
How do you actually do the 12 Days practice?
Focus on the question of the day. You may do so in many different ways– through journaling, blogging, engaging friends or family in conversation or reflection, yoga, dance, singing, drawing, sculpting (and we hope you’ll be sharing your thoughts, creations, or discoveries on the Deep Roots Wellness Facebook page). Experiment and find what works for you.
Decide how long you will focus. A general suggestion is to allow at least 20 minutes per day. If you do the practice with children, you’ll have to adjust for their attention span and for set up and clean up, of course. When my children were young, The 12 Days was an afternoon activity everyday. It filled whatever time we set for it. And the children loved showing their handy work at dinner to whoever appeared.
When? Designate a special time. Many people fold it into a daily meditation or devotional time : first focus of the morning or last focus of the night. One year I sat and watched the sun set and sat with the questions during sunset. It was a beautiful way to end the day. And it made me aware that my spiritual practice honored this celestial dance going on around us. I also noticed that the neighbor’s cat would jump up on the roof every night and watch the sun set, too. I felt both a sense of companionship and humility.
Another year, I tried to wake up and be outside when the sun arose. I walked with the questions, noticing where on the horizon the sun appeared.
On several occasions, I’ve been working during the 12 Days and have taken time in the morning or afternoon to do my journaling. Both worked well.
Where? Designate a special place to practice. It may help to have the same place, so that the body learns and remembers to open to your deepest, wisest self when you sit or draw or write or walk there.
Mark the spot in some intentional way.
Create an altar with objects that symbolize your intention for the practice and for this stage of your life.
Rearrange the furniture conducive to the practice..
If you enjoy sitting with music, choose a recording (or an instrument).
Create comfortable seating or a surface for laying down and becoming aware.
But your life may or may not support the same place, the same time, everyday. Go with the flow. And you may want to mix it up a little. Discover what places are most conducive to opening deeply to your inner voices of guidance (and humor).
Please don’t practice when you drive unless you’re willing to pull over!
The 12 Days is a doorway to the American winter holiday cycle. The key to the door is YOU! You decide how you’ll practice. This is your practice, for your own individuation.
Although 12 Days starts on December 21, start preparing yourself in advance as a witness of the shift in the pattern of light. If you’re home at sunrise, notice where on the horizon you first see the sun. Pay attention to how the rising point shifts as we approach the solstice. Imagine the long line of men and women who have watched the solstice, bearing witness to the shift within as well as the shift in the patterns of light. At the heart of this practice is awareness of the relationship of the earth and the sun, the length of the day versus the length of the night, the weather patterns resulting from the “gathering darkness.” Ask yourself “Who watches?” with compassion and curiosity.
Using the Questions as Meditation (or Prayer) Prompts
No matter what style of meditation (or prayer) you practice, start your practice with a short relaxation meditation.
RELAX: For those unfamiliar with relaxation meditations, here’s an example:
Sitting Meditation: Sit in a comfortable chair or meditation cushion or lie on your back on a firm surface. Let your back be supported. Have adequate blankets so you are comfortable. Take several deep, cleansing breaths, to release any tension and bring your self into the moment. Close your eyes. Become aware of your breathing. Watch the flow of the breath through the body. Starting with the soles of your feet, imagine that you can bring your breath and awareness to the soles of your feet, releasing any tension down into the earth. With each exhalation, let the feet become more and more relaxed and heavy, connected with the energy of the earth. Then imagine that as you inhale, you draw energy up through your feet, into your legs, calves, knees, and thighs. Let your legs be heavy as you exhale, releasing all their holding. When you’re ready, imagine drawing energy up through your feet and legs into your hips and belly. As you exhale, release any holding from the belly, down through the legs and feet. Then, as you inhale, draw the breath up through the legs into the torso, and into the heart and chest. Exhale all unnecessary holding. Letting the breath move freely with every inhalation, the body becomes more and more relaxed with every exhalation. Breathing in spaciousness to your shoulders, exhale as you let gravity relax the arms and hands. Let your jaw be soft, and lips be gently parted. As you inhale, let the back of the neck grow long.
Spend several minutes allowing the body to release all its holding as you watch the passage of breath and give yourself permission to let go, to relax, and to be fully present in this very moment.
Moving Meditation: If you have an aversion to sitting still (or lying still), you adapt the relaxation meditation using yoga or dance stretching. Take your time, breathing into every part of the body, with an affirmation of being relaxed, at peace, aware. (How about dancing to your favorite holiday music)?
Editor’s Note: Once you are relaxed and focused, take time to focus or pray on the main question and sub-questions of the day (which will be posted daily), and document your thoughts through art, journaling, etc. And don’t forget to share your discoveries on the Deep Roots Wellness Facebook page!
By: Rev. Mary Grigolia
There are key concepts shared by Jung’s 12 stages and by the 12 Days (workshop). Consistent with integral philosophy that life has “directionality” toward greater complexity and interdependence, Jung observed that human beings must continue to learn and grow. We must engage our life for meaning. Integral philosophers would say we have to own the interior dimension of our life.
As as psychologist, Jung studied the varied focuses of growth and named 12 contiguous tasks, which he arranged in a circle because we keep cycling through:
- Physical awareness, personal values
- Creating a sense of home
- Creative self-expression
- Affiliation, love, friendship
- Impermanence, loss, death
- Philosophy and religion
- Work, creating a role in the world
- Being part of creating harmony
- Learning, setting one’s course
He thought of the first six as being “introverted” tasks, turning one’s attention inward, whereas he saw the second set of six focusing us on our relationships in the world. The sixth and twelfth stages are cusp-like or transitional stages: “Even though I decide what I serve, service brings me beyond myself. Even though in stage 12 I come from an interpersonal focus (e.g. o the dance of religion, work in the world, creating peace), when I pause to recapitulate what I’ve learned, I must own the individual dimension (who learns?), and prepare for a new round of growth and questions such as “who am I now?”.
Jung believed that to be whole, we must go for both depth and breadth. We must know which stage naturally draws us to develop our talents and interests. He observed that as we age, a psychologically and spiritually healthy person naturally shifts or widens their interest and focus and begins to cultivate those areas where we have least proficiency, so that we are able to flow well in the world and develop compassion for one-another (not least of all, ourselves). We must develop depth in our passions and breadth in those areas where we lack confidence.
By: Rev. Mary Grigolia
American holiday celebrations tend to be outer-focused. We buy presents for others, we decorate our homes and entertain one-another; we go to parties. In our consumer-focused society, children are taught that the holiday is all about how many presents they get. We expect ourselves to feel “merry.” And if we’re lucky, we have good memories that encompass the holiday music, so when we hear our favorite carols, we are changed emotionally.
But most of us also have tremendous anxiety around the holidays:
- We may have lost someone we loved and we especially miss them at holiday time. We wonder what the holidays will be like without their physical presence. We may have to let some rituals go. And we may need time to discover what we need from the holidays at this stage of life.
- We may see people we don’t see at other times of the year. We may project our fears about aging or changing onto them. What will they think of us? How will they welcome our new partner (or the absence of our old partner)? We look at ourselves more critically: Have I gotten fat? Lost my edge? Lost my hair, eyesight, health, hearing? Have I failed to accomplish the great plans I shared last year?
- Our families are changing. We may take on responsibilities to host festivities. Or we decide not to do so. We may face the loss of meaningful rituals and role models. We may feel inadequate or angry at others stepping down or not stepping up.
- We may be experiencing financial insecurity and worry about not keeping up with others’ (or our own) expectations.
- If we experienced friction in our families, holidays might bring up unhealed wounds. We may not know other ways to be family.
Holiday celebrations mirror our society: focused on the outer surface. To be whole, individuals and cultures need balance between our outer practices and our inner sense of awareness and meaning. The 12 Days addresses this cultural imbalance without conflicting with Christmas, Hanukkah, or Kwanzaa celebrations. It’s complimentary.
By: Rev. Mary Grigolia
For millennia, our ancestors understood the need to observe the light cycles of nature and celebrate the return of the light. The most ancient rituals went far beyond practices for physical survival to the deepest meanings of life and death. To be human is to find meaning, seeking coherence or harmony between the inner world and the outer, shared reality.
What inner meanings do you see expressed in the rituals of the winter holiday cycle? Here are some I hear:
- Life is cyclical. It’s normal and necessary to go through cycles of birth, growth, maturation, reproduction, deterioration, and death.
- We learn from the cycles that came before. We learn and grow in cycles.
- We are shaped by the cycles of light around us at the most intimate levels.
- As above, so below. As without, so within.
- Life abounds with beauty at every stage.
- Even at the darkest hour, in our deepest sorrows, light and life will return.
- New life is nurtured in darkness.
- Although the old year dies, the witness endures.
- The dance of impermanence is to be celebrated.
- Life is transient and cyclical. Yet something endures: That which observes, that which holds the panorama of the sky: that which we call “the witness.”
- Everything is moving toward greater and greater complexity. Life is growth in self-awareness, in cultural patterns, in harmony.
- Holiday celebrations exist to help us bear witness to the passing of time, the cycles of nature, the cycles within us, and the mystery beyond us.
Holidays are family and culture-based rituals to witness and celebrate the passage of time, the turning of the wheel of generations, and to remind us where we belong.